Duality of the mind

Honestly I don't know where to start, the mind in a very complex system especially when observing from a third perspective. What I mean by this is being able to trace your thoughts/ pattern of thoughts, at the same time being able to view them from a third perspective of the person assessing the individual who is experiencing the thoughts. As I am experiencing this I am filled with overload of information, feelings and thoughts. It reaches a point I do something that is good/bad, and from the third perspective I am overloaded with feedback from something which I am experiencing. When I think  about life , the word spontaneous comes to my mind.  A lot of things happen around us, and some those glimpses we miss are caused by not being keen on perception hence the saying "Life is perspective ". So with this logic If a person perseves good, does that mean his/her life is good and if a person perseves bad, does that mean his/her life is bad 🤔. Who decides if your life is good/bad, is it you, life, perspective, situations,mindset . Overall when I think about it I would say perception. The perception of self, life, mindset, thoughts,overall how one chooses to perceive. Now does this entail that perception controls spontaneous actions and reaction of life, in my perspective it does not. However it does in a way affect how one process/go about in dealing with the actions and reactions of life.